Seeking Joy In Life's Everyday Moments: "Mommy, why does God need Daddy?"

Anyone got an answer for that question? When my precious little one looks at me, as she is cuddled up in her bed, how do I respond to that?

~I have a few responses I could share, but I want to look deeper so that I may give her truth, not just what sounds good or what I've been taught, but God indeeds for me to share with her.

~It's not that God needs her daddy, but that God "ordains the days of our life" and knew when Ryan's life would be over. God has used Ryan's death, to glorify Him. This may be a difficult way to view the death of your loved one, but it's our chose to choose how you are going to look at your loss. I've made the choice to look at it this way because I TRUST and BELIEVE God loves us and that there is a purpose for ALL things that happen. It hurts, but I came to a realization that life is not about me, my kids, my family or friends. But we are here on this earth for one purpose... to honor, worship, and glorify our Father in heaven.

If you have any answers to share please do. Comment and let me know what your thoughts are... I'm gonna continue to search. But first I have to pick up my kids.

My Story...

On Dec. 2, 2006, I received the phone call every wife prays they will never recieve! "There's been an accident, and Ryan has been hurt."
(...two days earlier, Ryan and 3 co-workers/very close friends, had boarded a cruise ship for a short 3 day retreat to Mexico.) While on board enjoying a walk around the observation deck Ryan noticed a small platform, above them. Being his spontaneous, impulsive self, Ryan climbed up. As he pulled himself up, he was hit from behind by the HUGE rotating radar antenna. (He never saw it coming!) Ryan feel about 10feet and lie unconscience in his friends arms.
They couldn't transport Ryan from the ship w/o bringing it into port in San Diego. Once there they took him to UCSD. He remained there in a coma for 12 days before he went home to be with the Lord. We were thankful Ryan was able to be a organ donor, allowing us to give others the hope for healing. We prayed for a miracle and we got one. It may be not have been the miracle of Ryan's body being fully healed, but he was fully restored and made whole in Christ, on Dec. 14th.
During those days we were in S.D. God made Himself known in SO many countless ways. His provision, support, comfort, direction, care, and love blew me away! It's possible to make decisions in times like these, yet God always gave us confirmation and peace with each decision we had to make.
Ryan spent his life living for the Lord. He wasn't perfect, but he lived his life with purpose making an impact on everyone who met him.
I was priviledged to have been married to my best friend and the man of my dreams for 8 1/2 yrs. We served in youth ministry for 7yrs in his home church. I am blessed to have 3 precious pieces of Ryan that God has entrusted to me (for now). Of course it's difficult not having their amazing daddy here to watch them grow and be a part of our lives, but he left a legacy we will forever cherish. God used Ryan while he was here, but He is also being glorified through Ryan's death.

4 comments:

AnonymousApril 22, 2009 at 1:50 PM
Christina's mom has just been diagnosed with cancer and things are looking very serious. I will be definitely be attempting to answer some very difficult questions.
AnonymousApril 27, 2009 at 9:14 PM
My six year old daughter asks the same question.Like you I believe that God has a purpose and a plan. My husband wanted to know God, his question were beyond anything anyone here could answer. He was a scientist, he studied prophecy with a passion. I tell my daughter that it was daddy's turn to ask all those questions. And I remind her that God is always are daddy and his plan is perfect and someday will look back and it will all be good. Hang in their dear. Kids question will always challenge us to look deeper.
Roland TrujilloApril 28, 2009 at 8:27 AM
As I have often said in my books and on my radio program, father stands in for God in the eyes of the child. Dad represents the Heavenly Kingdom, and thus father must be principled, honorable, kind, and have understanding. When we are little, though children are close to God through their innocence, we are not yet ready to relate directly to God. That is why God gave us parents, and especially father. When father is not there, we can honor and love the father spirit. God is our true father, and by honoring our earthly father and loving what is right, we remain close to conscience, and it will be but a small step to one day transfer our love from our earthly father that we can see to our Heavenly Father we cannot see.
JustineJune 7, 2009 at 1:06 PM
I applaud your trust in God, but have to disagree about "God needing" the kids' daddy. We live in a fallen world. That is why my husband died at 32. It wasn't God that determined that. It was the enemy, who is just here to steal, kill, and destroy. He killed my husband (allowed in through an open door of my husband's own making), trying to destroy our family. Through God's grace we are now stronger than ever and very happy.

:)
Justine